SOUL-MATES
Probably one of the most common questions I get asked is: ‘Are they my soul mate?' or ‘When will I meet my soul mate?' I can only talk from my own understanding, but we have many ‘soul mates' that come into our life during our life time. They will be part of our ‘Soul group' and obviously the connection will feel very powerful.
With our soul group we have about 100 people that we have shared many lives with and have shared many roles with (mother/father/sibling/lover/colleague/enemy etc), What we term Soul Mate is the way the powerful feelings have been set up for attraction and the consequent relationship that follows and then the unfolding of what lessons each soul has to learn, which can as we know from relationships be very destructive too. For example the Souls meet and can have an instant attraction, fall into a relationship and marriage, and then the husband controls the wife through mental level abuse. The lesson for the wife is to come into her power and stand up to the husband and be able to overcome her fear of abandonment, her low self worth and leave her husband. Tough lesson, but a very common one to go through with one of our soul mates.
What most people want to hold onto is the idea that there is only one Soul Mate for them. This is because the subconscious craves certainty and safety - It revels in habits and patterns and what it knows - and if the one they were in love with was ‘the one' then that would save a lot of fear and tough lessons. The star crossed lover's syndrome of literature and those windows in our life when we glimpse such deep love is what we group in with the term Soul Mate. This is in fact our ‘Twin Flame,' the twin aspect of our soul.
It is very rare for us to actually meet our Twin Flame in a life time as they may not even be incarnate at the same time as us or live at the opposite ends of the world, because as our twin aspect they are learning different lessons to us. Those relationships where the Twin flames actually do meet are indestructible and deeply love and last forever. The aspects may have chosen to meet because other life lessons of extreme tragedy of children or illness etc are only able to be survived with the unconditional love and support of your twin flame.
]It's relevant for today's blog because of the pressure many people put on themselves for the dream of a perfect relationship with the one and only soul mate. This distracts from the lessons of self worth and abandonment which are core issues we are all dealing with. Whilst we are still on a karmic planet, living karmic lives, it's worth recognising our own lessons and sometimes seeing our relationships as reflections of the internal work we need to do on ourselves rather than the external projection of ‘the one.' 
Past lives are a fascinating contribution to these lessons too. Often the instant connection we feel with someone can be because we shared a life together and have to finish off a lesson. Just because we shared a past life with someone doesn't make them the ‘special one.' Remember our soul group of 100 souls, we have shared 700 odd lives together, so it still should motivate us to recognise our lessons to help us clear them and become the clearest channel possible to manifest the most loving relationship possible. Even if we take the spiritual truth of ‘living in the moment' then we are actually with ‘the one' - the one most relevant for right now.
On a final note a buzz phrase on the spiritual level at the moment is ‘Cosmic Ordering' yet it is a principle that is being miss-understood. People all over the world are asking the universe to deliver their dream relationship, without realising that in order for that to manifest the person has to be clear enough to allow that relationship in. This means the universe gets busy throwing up self worth issues and suppressed fears and doubts to deal with so the person can be clear enough to manifest their dream relationship. They are in fact manifesting, clearing the way to manifest fully... the point at which most of us think it's getting worse not better and give up on our dreams.